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WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD IS STRUGGLING AT SCHOOL

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Hello and thanks for visiting my site. I really appreciate it. Here we will talk about some of the things you can do to try and help if your child is struggling at school. It’s important to note that at some stage or another every child will hit a roadblock or two at school so these tips can really be applied broadly to kids of all ages. Knowing what to do when your child is struggling at school is really important.

Don’t let your kids your kids bottle things up, let them vent to you.

What to do when your child is struggling at school

So it’s important to understand that kids will not always be great at expressing themselves to you in an articulate and structured way. They will often times bottle things up and become more frustrated with things, until eventually they explode, often at mum or dad. You might think that you have done something wrong, when in reality you just weren’t aware of how much you child was struggling.

Learn to recognise the signs that your kids are frustrated, try and pick your moment to have a talk with them and ask what is wrong and what you can do to help. It might be just a case of listening to them and letting them get everything off their chest. In this way they feel better and you have an idea of what is bothering them any school.

Take a break, don’t be afraid to let your child make mistakes.

When your kids get mad and throw their pen down, don’t get angry yourself, instead take a time out. Let your child calm down and then get them to explain what was wrong. Assure them that you know that everyone struggles some point or other and it’s ok to feel frustrated at times. Be patient and let you child make mistakes. Eventually they will get to where they need to be, and be all the stronger for it.

Teachers can help

Speak to your child’s teachers.

Ok so this sounds like an obvious one, but is tougher than you think. For a start you don’t want to cause your already stressed kid embarrassment. They might think that they have failed if mum or dad has to have a chat with their teacher about why they are having a tough time academically.

So talk your kid first, reassure them you just want to get a better understanding of the situation and will keep it discreet. Their teachers will probably have a better idea than you will, as to how they and you can support your childs studies. You will also probably find you have more support than you think. After all your kid won’t be the only one having a hard time.

Help to get your child more organised in a routine.

Once you understand why your child is struggling and at which topics, you can better plan out a routine to help him or her. It could be that they need to focus on a particular subject at home more than others. It could also be that they need to be more focused, so helping them keep distraction free will help this. Set a time limit on each extra amount of work they need to do so they don’t feel overwhelmed or resentful.

This will help them slowly improve over time without heaping too much pressure on them. Being organised and a little disciplined like this can be a useful life skill to teach them too. After all not everything can be learned in a classroom from a book right?

All kids struggle at some point academically.

Summary.

So to sum up, be supposed patient. Listen first to what your child is telling you. As only they know what’s going on in their head. Talk to their teachers where necessary and always let your child know they are not alone in this challenge. Together you will both come out the other side that much stronger for it.

Well I hoped this article helped you in some way, and as always if you liked this post please leave a like, share or comment below, and I will get back to you promptly.

Thanks again,

Kenny.

Kenny@myadviceforbaby.com

 

 

 

 

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20 thoughts on “WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD IS STRUGGLING AT SCHOOL”

  1. Jurgen says:

    Thanks for this article. I can completely relate to what you’re saying. Our 7-year old son has the tendency to be a bit of a perfectionist. So when something does not go the way he wants, he gets very frustrated.

    His teacher, and we of course, always need to remind him that it is perfectly okay to make mistakes. But it’s not easy to convince him…

    1. Kenneth Glossop says:

      That’s great that he cares so much, but your right it’s important to let him know that no one is perfect. Thanks Kenny 

  2. Chris says:

    It’s so nice to see that there is such a deep understanding of this subject these days – I wish it had been the same when I was in school in the 80’s. 

    I struggled terribly with maths, and in those days, the two ‘main’ and ‘important’ subjects you covered in school were maths and English. 

    My teacher did not understand, and was not at all patient with me, and because of this I have gone through life with a maths ‘blockage’ – I still struggle with it to this day. 

    I really like the section about not being afraid of letting your child make mistakes – I really needed that when I was younger because even my parents lost their cool with my lack of talent for mathematics (they were worried I was going to end up with poor qualifications). 

    Do you believe that there is still too much emphasis and pressure put on children from a young age, when it comes to the main school subjects?

    1. Kenneth Glossop says:

      yes absolutely I do think it’s better now, but not where it should be. We bring kids up to believe that if they don’t have the best grades in school, they will be written off. That’s just not the case. Thanks 

  3. Jenny says:

    You are so right about the venting. I used to think I’m a bad mom, but someday, I realised that I was doing the same thing when I was a kid with my parents and that didn’t mean I didn’t love them. Now, I usually talk to my son, when I see him struggling with something and I’m trying to go back and see where the problem started. Sometimes, when he doesn’t understand something, it is because he hasn’t understood something that is required for what he learns now. 

    I usually let him study on his own and come to me when he has a problem, but I always check what he did with his homework at the end of the day. This way, I can find out if he has made some serious mistakes which will prevent him from understanding something in the future. 

    1. Kenneth Glossop says:

      Hi and thanks for sharing your own personal experiences with me, it’s much appreciated and I am glad you have such a great relationship with your son. Communication is so important to solving problems together. Thanks Kenny 

  4. Paul says:

    Dear Kenneth Glossop,

    Indeed a much needed topic and very helpful article.

    Nowadays we pressurize our children to do well in schools but when they are struggling we don’t know much what to do and how to handle it.

    Shouting, Scolding, and joining them in some tuition center is all what we do nowadays but your article teaching the parents the right way to handle it.

    Listening to them and letting them get everything off their chest… Great advice!

    Patience is the key in parenting art and we need support our child in their struggle.

    Thanks for sharing great insights on parenting and helping our children.

    Wishing you all the very best!

    Paul

    1. Kenneth Glossop says:

      Thanks, I’m glad you agree with my point of view and I hope you will visit again soon.

  5. Alenka says:

    Thank you for this excellent reminder that we need to be in our child’s corner, even when it looks like they are being difficult. 

    My children have started going to the kindergarten this year, and only the other day I noticed my little boy not being happy around one of the other boys. My son would start crying every time the little boy approached him. 

    I left it for a couple of days, but couldn’t hold back any longer. Went and had a talk with my son’t kindergarten teacher, and it turns out this little boy bit my son the very first day (nobody told me!) and this is why my boy reacted the way he had. 

    Now we’ve devised a little plan for the two boys to become good friends and I’m sure they will be soon.

    Parenting is rewarding but full of challenges!

    1. Kenneth Glossop says:

      yep it is tough sometimes to know what’s going on with our kids, but we know we will always be there to back them up no matter what.

  6. Emma says:

    Hi Kenny you have an amazing site here. I just wish I’d have happened upon it a few years ago. All of your advice here is exactly on point. Our son will has struggled since starting school and was later on diagnosed as having little to no working memory. He is now doing much better through a monumental effort on his part (Bless him.) and a much better support network at school. We went through the proper channels to start off with and through a few administrative errors and long waiting lists Will got overlooked. It took my husband speaking to the representatives of our local authority and the school in a stern manner to get some results. If I were to add anything to your advice it would be to keep on and then keep on so more if you need assistance as the earlier you catch these things the better.

    I will be following your posts with Interest.

    Thanks Emma

    1. Kenneth Glossop says:

      Hi and thanks for the feedback, I really do appreciate the fact you took the time to leave me a comment and share your own experiences with me. Take care, Kenny 

  7. Emmanuel Buysse says:

    This article is of vital importance, my wife used to work with children with learning difficulties, it is a job that has to be very well organized and above all, to establish a communication and trust between teacher and student, I also know that in the experience as a teacher of my wife, most of the parents didnt pay attention to the care needs of their children or didnt know how to recognize them or they did not care at all, so this article seemed very interesting to me, the advice that you are giving are very well described and are very helpful, my wife spoke some of those points that you mention with the parents of their students a long time ago and only very few took those tips.

    So it’s good to see people online trying to help these kinds of problems that most of us as parents face.

    Thanks.

    1. Kenneth Glossop says:

      Thanks for sharing your insight with us and what a great job your wife does. I’m glad you found my post useful..

  8. Renton says:

    Great post! I think people often forget how difficult school can be. You have to wake up early everyday (even though humans thrive on routine) and go to a strange place to learn weird stuff, for the ENTIRE day!. I guess because children have the most plastic brain structure learning is “easier” or faster but they are just small humans.

    School can be very difficult, especially because people learn differently. This means there is no procedure that applies to every child to help them learn. I often found that most adults just tell you to repeat stuff until it gets in your head, however the volume at higher levels is too vast to do this.

    I think no matter your learning style, you should try to break the work down into smaller pieces. Going through the stuff you learned during the day is a good way to help your brain process information. Even simple stuff shuld be broken down (like 1+1=2 simple) is easier to digest one day at a time as opposed to the day before the test (trust me I know from experience)

    The most important thing to know about learning is that it is better to understand than just remember (in my opinion) If you just parrot fashion certain topics it may be easy to forget. If you understand why 1+1=2 you can confidently build knowledge upon these fundamental truths, thus setting you up for successful learning.

    1. Kenneth Glossop says:

      yes I agree with you. Nothing is straightforward and you need to be patient and persevere. Thanks for getting back to me.

  9. Kit says:

    Sometimes children kept quiet about things that is going on in their life. We as parent do not know if such thing is happening whether in school or somewhere else. So stay connected with them. Ask them how they had their day. If may be hard for them to tell it out so be gentle and encouraging helps.

    1. Kenneth Glossop says:

      That is exactly what we all should do to help our kids. They have to have that relationship where they feel they can talk to you without being judged. Thanks Kenny 

  10. Riza says:

    Children really need support from parents no matter what condition they are in. Whether its studying or a sport they are interested in the parent has to make sure he/she is close. Help them with school work and make them feel encouraged and appreciated in whatever they do. This will make them more productive and make you a proud parent. Thank you for this great post

    1. Kenneth Glossop says:

      Hi you’re welcome. And thank you for taking the time to leave me a comment. Kenny 

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